5 Questions Every Man Should Ask Before Making His Next Big Decision
Break Free From Past Programming & Start Making Conscious Choices
Are You Making Decisions From Fear or From Choice?
Most men in midlife make big decisions based on outdated programming rather than present reality. We choose what we think we "should" do instead of what actually makes sense for who we are today.
Use these 5 questions for any major decision: career changes, relationships, finances, life direction
The 5 Questions
"Whose voice am I hearing right now?"
When you think "I should..." - whose voice is that really? Your father's? Society's?
QUICK CHECK: What feels right when you're not managing other people's expectations?
"If I had no one to impress and no one to disappoint, what would I choose?"
Remove the fear of judgment and need to prove yourself.
QUICK CHECK: What feels right when you're not managing other people's expectations?
"Am I choosing from fear or choosing from vision?"
Fear-based choices use words like "avoid," "prevent," "can't afford to." Vision-based choices use "create," "build," "become."
QUICK CHECK: Are you moving toward something you want or away from something you're afraid of?
"What would the man I'm becoming choose?"
You're not the same person you were 10 years ago. Your choices should reflect who you're growing into, not who you've been.
QUICK CHECK: Does this decision fit the person you're becoming or the person you used to be?
"What does my body tell me about this choice?"
Your gut often knows before your mind does.
QUICK CHECK: When you imagine each option, do you feel expansion or contraction? Energy or heaviness?
Your Next Step
Take 10 minutes right now: Think of a decision you're facing and quickly run through these 5 questions. Notice which choice keeps surfacing as most authentic to who you are today.
If one answer keeps coming up but you're avoiding it - that's probably your inherited programming trying to keep you "safe."